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They’re gonna find me out! The curious case of the Impostor phenomenon

4 November, 2018

posted in help me, treatment, uncategorised

Did you know about 70% of people will experience the impostor phenomenon (fear of failure, fear of success, a sometimes obsessive perfectionist drive, and an inability to accept praise and achievement, combined with a genuine belief that you, the ‘impostor’, will be found out for being a fake).  To put it simply, it is the experience of feeling like a phony or a fraud.  It is particularly prevalent among high achieving women.

Common thoughts and feelings include:

  • I must not fail
  • I feel like a fake
  • My success was pure luck
  • I don’t deserve to be in this job

Common behaviours include: read more »

Living well with Type 2 Diabetes

5 March, 2018

posted in help me, treatment, useful resources, wellbeing

There are over quarter of a million people in Aotearoa diagnosed with diabetes (mostly type 2 diabetes) and perhaps another 100,000 with diabetes who don’t know it yet (Ministry of Health, NZ).  Diabetes is about 3 x more prevalent in Maaori and Pasifika people and is also strong in South Asian populations.

 

You can still live a great life with diabetes if you take control of the things you can control. read more »

Ever thought about suicide?

24 February, 2018

posted in help me, treatment, useful resources, wellbeing

Thinking about suicide is a common thing to do.  It can be very hard to talk about emotional feelings but it’s really important to talk about this with someone.  Whatever is going on for you that has led to how you’re feeling right now is unique to you – but having suicidal thoughts is not. You are not alone, lots of people have thought about killing themselves and have found a way through.

Here is a list of free talk lines in New Zealand read more »

Binge Viewing and Sleep

26 September, 2017

posted in help me, research, treatment, wellbeing

Being a Netflix subscriber, this study made for a fascinating insight into the lives of 18-25 year old binge viewers.  A study published in the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine this year showed that the more nights a week you binge viewed (defined as watching multiple episodes of the same series in one viewing), the more nights a week you will have associated difficulty sleeping.  80% of this age group reported binge viewing.  read more »

INTERSEX – What We All Need to Know

26 May, 2017

posted in help me, relationships, useful resources, wellbeing

Intersex is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that does not fit the typical definitions of female or male.  The older term for this is hermaphroditism.  It includes around 30 conditions, some of which may be identified at birth, some during puberty, some when people try to conceive, and some are never identified.

Gender, as a binary system (either male or female) is a cultural or social construct.  Some cultures have different interpretations on gender and don’t just see things as male or female.  For example, in Samoa, fa’afafine, in Thailand, kathoeys, and in Native American – the two spirit people.

In Western culture, in the recent past, parents of intersex new-borns were put in a very difficult situation and read more »