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Hey men get Post-Natal Depression too, you know?

29 September, 2016

posted in couples, help me, relationships, uncategorised, useful resources, wellbeing

One out of 4 fathers experience symptoms of Post-Natal Depression (PND) during the 12 months following the birth of their child.  While most of them may not meet the full criteria for PND, many men report symptoms of depressed mood, low interest in their regular activities, feelings of worthlessness, loss of energy, and fears that their problems will be dismissed or they will be stigmatised in some way (e.g. seen as weak). While PND is more common in mothers (affecting about 15% of women with slightly higher rates for Maori women), often both partners are suffering some symptoms of depression and men often get missed. read more »

Shocking Thoughts

4 August, 2016

posted in help me, research, treatment, wellbeing

Disturbing thoughts?

Have you ever found yourself thinking something just plain awful?

And then felt guilty and ashamed of yourself?

Psychologist, Eric Klinger at the University of Minnesota, did a landmark experiment nearly 30 years ago.  He asked people to take a handheld device for one week.  Whenever the handheld device emitted a noise, the subjects in his experiment had to record what they were thinking.  His research showed that people had about 90 thoughts per day that felt unwanted and uncomfortable.  These were mean thoughts such as “I’m glad my ex is unhappy” or politically incorrect thoughts such as “I would hate to have a child with a disability”.  Even more shocking is that read more »

Anorexia Nervosa Genetics Study

24 June, 2016

posted in help me, research, useful resources

Ever had anorexia nervosa? – Then the world needs you!

A ground-breaking study is looking at the role of genetics in Anorexia Nervosa.

Final days to participate in the genetics of anorexia nervosa research project

If you have ever been diagnosed with anorexia nervosa in your lifetime, researchers would welcome your participation in this international study which aims to identify the genes for anorexia nervosa. What does it involve? A team from the University of Otago, Christchurch is recruiting participants for this ground breaking study. If you are interested , please complete this 10 minute survey which asks about some basic descriptive information about you (age, gender etc) and about eating disorder symptoms you have had at any stage. read more »

Sowing the Seeds of Love

26 May, 2016

posted in couples, relationships, useful resources

In the first year of my relationship with my boyfriend (now husband) I remember thinking, with more than a good dose of smugness, that we had not fought once.  In my naivety I thought this was a sign of a great relationship.  After twenty years of working with couples I have come to realise we were in the ‘honeymoon’ phase.  It was a charade, a time during which couples dance around each other, masking their real selves in an attempt to avoid rejection. read more »

Shedding light on the subject – how light or lack of it affects us

1 April, 2016

posted in useful resources, wellbeing

Human beings have been on earth since the Stone Age (around 100,000 years ago), and it is only in the last 200 years, following the Industrial Revolution, that billions of people have moved into cities. Way back, we lived in roving, close-knit bands following a hunter-gatherer way of life. We lived in places like the savannahs of Africa where it is hot and there are serious levels of sunlight. read more »